How to Become More Loving
Most people define love as a feeling. While this is not incorrect, it is also not 100% the truth. Love is more than a feeling. It is a commitment and an action. Most importantly, love is a decision. So, you can choose to become more loving or not. Additionally, you can choose how you want to love someone by the actions you decide to express. Below are some tips for becoming more loving;
Decide to love
Most people know that they are in love from their feelings. Love can manifest itself in feelings like ‘butterflies” and longingness. However, they can go away if you do not act on these feelings. For this reason, you must decide to love someone. Deciding to love someone also means choosing to start a relationship with them. It does not have to be a romantic relationship. Friendships also include love. However, the decision to love someone progresses from friendships to romantic or casual to committed relationships.
Invest time in loving
Love is an action, and every action requires an investment. In this case, love does not require a financial investment. Instead, the most significant investment you can put into love or a relationship is time. Investing time in a relationship is a demonstration of love.
Use your words
Have you ever heard of people who have been in love with others without the other person’s knowledge for years? These people usually assume that their actions, like spending time and showing care for the person, will prove their love. While actions can demonstrate love, accompanying the actions with words is the most effective way to communicate it. Many relationships have failed because of partners who cannot utter the words “I love you.”
Prove your love with actions
While communicating your love for someone using your words is vital; eventually, the words will mean nothing if actions do not accompany them. As the saying goes, “actions speak louder than words.” Remember that love is an action. So, you can demonstrate love through actions like treating your partner, protecting them, spending time with them, buying them gifts, etc. Learning your partner’s love language is the key to finding the right actions to demonstrate love. There are five critical love languages; words of affirmation, quality time, physical touch, gifts, and acts of service. Your partner’s love language will dictate the actions that will demonstrate your love for them.
Start by loving yourself
Many people fail to love their partners correctly because they do not know how to love themselves. Self-love is the first step in learning to love others and receive their love. You cannot give what you do not know or have. So, unless you know how to love yourself, you will not recognize love or know how to give it to others.
Love is a complex concept that many people think they understand, but they do not. For this reason, relationships do not last because people do not know how to love. Love is not just a feeling. It is a decision, an action, and a commitment.